Rules to Happy Marriage

There are 2 rules to a happy marriage:
Rule #1: Marry the one you love
Rule #2: Love the one you married.

You may break Rule #1, but never break Rule #2.

 

For a happy marriage live, you marry the one you really love. Sometimes, it may not that perfect that you get to marry the one you really love. There may be situations that prevent you from marrying that person and you marry someone else instead.

However, what is more important is Rule #2. Once you are married to someone, make an effort to love the one you marry. Even if you did not really love him or her at first, make an effort to keep the love growing.

There will be new differences that you had never encountered before. Respect that differences in the one you love.Your opinions will differ. You like different things, different food, different places, etc.

You may encounter lots of situations where you may wonder is that the same person you loved before. What made you loved him or her? For a happy marriage, loving another is a continuous effort. It needs constant communication, care and energy.

What ever happens, make an effort to follow Rule #2.

Wishing you long lasting happiness with your spouse.

Everything is Possible

Everything is possible if you have enough resources (people, money & materials), enough skills (people & technology) and enough time.

In memory of Neil Amstrong, we have sent a man to the moon. Right now, we have probes landed on Mars. It was all made possible because we have enough resources, skills and time. Just imagine,the powered flight was only successful in early 1900s.

However, the most valuable is enough determination. The USA was moved by the speech of President John Kennedy that the whole nation had a lot of determination to send a man on the moon before the end of 1960s.

Without enough determination, all the time, skills and resource already spent will be wasted. The task takes longer to complete, cost overrun, more people will be affected and demoralized.

Know Nothing, Much & Little

This is very typical of people. Those who know nothing will think that it cannot be done. They have no idea on what to do or how to do it.

Those who know much will think very detail and very far ahead that they can foresee all the problems. Sometimes it is not good because they will think of so many problems and it is clouding their vision of the better things can happen. Problems will be foreseen as very big and not worth starting.

Those who know little, will think that it is possible and easy to do. They cannot see the problems along the way as they do not have the experience and knowledge. With the little knowledge they have and thinking that there are no major problems, they are very motivated to carry out the task.

This normally can lead to problems as after task is started, then the problems come out one by one. With little knowledge, they are not able to overcome the problem. One problem leads to another problems.

So, it is important for you to seek the expertise from others and plan out the task in detail.

Insanity

Insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expect different results ~ Albert Einstein

Doing the same things will give you the same result. Do something different if you want things to change for the better. Improve on the things you do to improve the result.

Learn new skills, go to new places, read  a new book, etc. New skills will give you new perspective.

Get Paid For The Value Added

“You don't get paid for the hour. You get paid for the value you bring to the hour.” - Jim Rohn.

 

"You get paid for the value you add to others." - Sean Tan

Interesting and important quote to realize. 

 

We wanted more money for the work we do. Many complained about the low salary they received for the work they put in. Company directors are paid very well because they head the company which collectively add value to the shareholders.

 

Ask yourself what is the value you provide to others? The more value, the better you will be paid.

 

You Were Born A Champion

There was a swimming competition a long time ago.

You and many others were at the starting point. The gun went off and you swam as fast as you could towards the finishing point. You had the focus and determination to win.

You were the CHAMPION as you reached the finish point first. You beat millions of others. You got the first prize. You won the most precious and sacred gift of all:

GIFT of LIFE.

The starting point was your father and the finishing point was your mother.

Always remember that no matter what happens to you, how others treated you, what you feel right now, you were once a Champion.

Continue to build and develop the Champion within you. Everyone had and will have more problems. It is not how many times you had fallen, but how many times you had stood up and continue forward.

The getting up is the most important as it is training you to be stronger.

Success or Failure

Success or Failure is decided by your Expectations. ~ Sean Tan.

If you have low expectation, then you will get more success.
If you have high expectation, then you will get less success.

For example:
I expected my son to score at least 90 marks in the exam. He scored 85 marks. Then he did not do well.

If I expected my son to score at least 80 marks in the exam, and he scored 85 marks. Then he did well.

If you have lower expectation, you will get more SUCCESS.
If you have higher expectation, you will get more FAILURE.

Say Nice Things, Else Just Smile.

"If you have something nice to say, say it in front of others.

If you have nothing nice to say, just smile." - Sean Tan

It is very easy for us to say nasty things and our words hurt many people. We just wanted to release our built up anger within us. In the midst of anger, we do not care about how others may feel.

However, many times we will find out that the things that made us angry was not what it seemed to be. When we got more detail information, what we knew was not the complete story of the situation.

So, learn to control your mind, action and speech. Always think about positive things and words. When you think always positively, you will be happier and more positive words will automatically come out in your conversations and communications.

Only Success, No Failure

No Failure. You Are Successful, Only Unexpected Results.

You can only be successful. If you feel like a failure, it is just that the result you got is different from your initial expectation.

Analyze and improve your processes and take better actions. Learn from this event and make better decisions in the future.

Failure is simply the OPPORTUNITY to begin again,

this time more INTELLIGENTLY. ~ Henry Ford.

Good Decisions

Good decisions come from experience, and experience comes from bad decisions.

Do not lose the learning process when you made a bad decision. Any decision was good as you must have thought about it. It is just that the results were not what you had expected.

Easy to learn from a teacher

I have been a trainer for many years. I have been teaching thousands of participants over the years. It is easy to teach them and we had many discussions over the subject matters.

However, there are 2 people I find the most difficult to teach. My 2 sons.

I try to talk to them nicely, explain the reasons and yet not easy for them to listen and follow. It is easier for them to learn from their teachers at school or friends. In fact, when there is a subject matter that I find not correct, I will inform my son that what he learned was not correct.

Many times he had argued with me saying that the teacher at school said so this way and I am wrong to say it another way.

This experiences taught me valuable lessons.

We will learn only when we perceive there is a teacher teaching us. The teacher can be anything, from a real person to anything we read or see.

We are not be willing to listen or learn from someone who we perceive that is not a teacher. That is why it is difficult for an elder person to learn from a younger person. The older person will think that "what can this less experienced person teach me?"

There is a saying, 'When a student is ready, the teacher will appear'.

Be open minded and ready to learn from anything you come across. We can also learn from animals. There are many examples that we use to learn from animals characteristics.
 

Attitude is the spectacle we see the world

How we see things depend on the attitude that we are having. If we feel good, positive and happy,  all the things we see are much better.

If we are angry, we will see others are also angry and not nice. And when we communicate, our tone will also be angrier. The one receiving the angry words will also start to be angry. This will in turn make the matters worse. We can relate this when we realize that a big argument broke out was mainly due to small matter.

One good example is during the rush hour traffic jam. If our mood is not good, the travel can be a very bad experience. When we were angry over something, it will transform into the way we drive. We tend to be inpatient, speed and brake immediately. At the same time scolding the other drivers being slow and cutting into our lane.

If we are happy and calm, the situation is different. We are more understanding of the jam and be patient with other drivers.

Another example is during a minor car accident. The damage can be small, but the arguments over it can be very fierce and very vulgar.

So, try your best to always wear the best attitude spectacle to see the world.

Who knows, I may be the slow driver in front of you.

Energy in Everything

All things needs energy to function. Be it the handphone you use, the computer, lights, car you drive, etc.

In the same way, you also need energy in whatever you do. Energy to walk, talk, move, think.

Without sufficient energy, you just live life like a robot. Just doing what is necessary to get the things done.

With more energy, life will be much more interesting and fun. All the things you do will be better. You will also feel satisfied and happy doing things. 

Therefore put more energy in whatever you do. Motivate yourself to live the life you want and be happy going through your life path.

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Amazing
Awesome

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Beautiful
Best

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Cute
Charming

D

Dynamic

E

Excellent

F

Fun
Fabulous

G 

Great
Gorgeous

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